Unity in Financial Management and Marriage

Unity in Financial Management and Marriage

Everyone loves a beautiful wedding day, but when it’s all said and done, what really matters is the marriage that follows. A lifetime is a long time to be married, and whether you’ve been together for 30 days or 30 years, you’re in it for the long haul. That’s a lot of paychecks, a ton of bills, and even more conversations about money. In the end, the complications of financial management boil down to how well you and your spouse can work together.

Your finances are the driving resource behind everything that you do. Without money, you can’t even get married, let alone live with your spouse with ongoing responsibilities. You have to pay for the wedding, the home, the groceries, and everything else just to create a foundation for your new life together. When you said “I Do” on your wedding day, you were not only saying yes to a lifelong relationship to your spouse, but also yes to intertwined financial management.

“I Do” Means Unity

While financial management is a big part of marriage for every couple, it pales in comparison to the importance of unity. When it comes to having unity with your spouse, the biggest factor is always going to be loving selflessness for one another. The origin story of the Bible puts it this way:

“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”

Genesis 2:24

God created us for more than just sharing our finances and our living spaces. He created us to be united as one person. This not only means working together to be on the same page, but to love each other in the way that Jesus displayed His love to us. Here is how the Apostle Paul put it:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.”

Ephesians 5:25-27

As a husband, when I said “I do” on my wedding day, I said yes to Christ-like unity with my wife.

Unity in Financial Management

Before you were married, you only had to consider one person for your financial decisions: you! You created all of your habits over many years and now your spouse is asking that you change those patterns you built. Not only that, but you’re also asking your partner to change their habits as well. Here’s the truth in all of this: none of us have arrived at being the perfect partner. As Christians, we believe that God is always going to work on us to make us more like Jesus.

So if you want more unity in financial management, it’s going to take a lot of hard work and even more love. To truly work together, you must care more about what’s good for your marriage than about getting your own way. You need to love your spouse more than you love yourself. And while that’s really hard to do, a better relationship that reflects Christ’s love will always be worth it.

In the end, financial management is determined by the decisions you make in your life. If you want more unity, take steps toward working better with your spouse. Surround yourself with wise couples that can guide you and help you. Have those hard conversations about the future and the things you need to change. Be intentional with your partner and ask how you can be a better spouse. This Biblical truth for all of us will remain: if you want more unity in financial management and marriage, you need more sacrificial, Christ-like love.

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